Monday, July 23, 2012

Free Their Imagination

It seems like with all the technology  available to our children they have fewer and fewer opportunities to just use their imaginations; just pure imagination. I remember when I was a kid, we would spend the entire summer outside, when it was stinking hot and even when it was raining. We would wake up everyday excited for the adventure, the unknown of every day, excited to explore and discover all the amazing adventures outside our front door. It is a different time now. Children are organized, supervised, huddled, shipped off, signed up and carted around to play dates, sporting events, indoor playgrounds, lessons and parties. There are very few days my own children get to be on their own to let their imaginations run wild but when they do it is just magical, for them and for me.



One of the things my children love to do is to make concoctions or experiments (as they like to call them). They have a toy kitchen that is always outside, they just let their imaginations run wild.

 The girls grab whatever they can find in the garden;  leaves, flowers and dirt, and stir it around with water. It can be a mucky mess but they have so much fun. They can spend hours outside stirring and cooking and concocting.



 It can be hard for kids to learn how to throw off the constraints of an adult world and let loose but when it happens they have so much fun. One of the things we love to do together is to watch the clouds and guess what they are, imagine what creations the clouds are creating in the sky. It is a moving art show.


 It is especially fun while sitting at the end of the dock at the cottage. The lake water is crisp, the sky is blue and the clouds are fluffy white and all around you can hear the water lapping, the birds chirping and the wind rustling the leaves in the trees. Just bliss!!!!!!!


 While at our cottage over the Canada Day long weekend my youngest daughter, who was 6 years old at the time, and I sat on the dock enjoying the day, soaking up the sun and talking. She was playing with some cable ties. You know the ones that you use to bundle computer cables with.

(This picture seems so funny when you just look at it without reading the post first! I promise if you read it will make sense)

 We used them to attach buckets and a floating duck t our waterline in the lake so that boats don't drive over it. She was creating things with two black ties. It was pure imagination at work. She crafted, one making a loop and a straight stick, stating it was her microphone and started to sing. She then said "Look this is my lasso and I am going to lasso you."  She sat talking and creating and playing for about an hour on the dock. No iPad, no computer, no phone; just pure imagination.

Of course, there is nothing better than turning your imagination lose with paper and crayons. Some of the best masterpieces are created this way. One of the things my kids love to do is draw. They play a game with their dad who is an illustrator. They each create a scribble on a piece of paper and then hand it over to the other person, often their dad, to see what they can make from the scribble. They craft a masterpiece from the scribble.


 I created this post as part of the Energizer Free Their Imagination blog tour. It is something that is really important to me as a Mom. I want my children to grow up knowing how to tap into their imaginations. As a writer and blogger everything I do is about using my imagination to craft articles and tell stories. It is something that enriches my life and I want my children to grow up always nourishing their imaginations. As part of Energizer's efforts to celebrate the joy and benefits of play and imagination they are offering a fantastic contest with over 2,000 Crayola prizes to be won. There will be hourly draws from now until October 1, 2012. As a special bonus, there is a unique PIN, that will get you an extra chance to win. You can enter only once per hour but you can use multiple PINs for additional bonuses.

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 Disclosure – I am participating in the Energizer program by Mom Central Canada.  I received compensation for my participation in this campaign.  The opinions on this blog are my own.  

Friday, June 8, 2012

Post It and Believe it!

It is important to have a healthy dialogue with yourself. I struggle with this sometimes, as I think we all do. So, to help me remember what is important I like to write messages and reminders on post it notes. I stick them on my computer, in my note book or my reading book. Here are just a few phrases I like to say to myself.




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Friday, May 25, 2012

The Importance of a Nap

I have been known to do a little too much, to put too much on my plate. I try to fit too much in to my day. Sound familiar? I work evenings in the media so it is like I have two full time jobs - the family during the day and radio news at night. Oh and I forgot to mention that I write freelance sometimes and I teach at a local college sometimes too! See where I have a problem?

Well, today was no different from any other day. I have been running around doing errands trying to get the house ready for my daughters birthday party next weekend, and that includes getting the yard ready for a bunch of kids. I had a bunch of things to get this morning, including mulch and sod but what I really wanted to do was watch movies and sleep on the couch. SOOooooooooooooooooooooooo.....I did the yard work and then I watched movies and napped on the couch with the puppy. I don't do it often enough. I often find it hard to actually put my feet up and relax. There is always something to do BUT today I decided that I just needed to let it go and take care of myself for a little while. And boy was it worth it. I had a great time snuggling with the puppy who clearly needed some me time too!

I know it is important to take care of myself but sometimes I just let life get in the way of what I know is true and necessary. It is important to slow down, take a load off and take care of you!


What do you do for yourself? What do  you do to recharge your batteries?

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Being A Mom Can Be Hard - MumsnChums post

(as seen on MumsnChums)

You are embarking on a brand new life with a brand new life. Not too scary right? It doesn’t have to be a journey you take on your own. There is an entire community of Mothers waiting out there to share their thoughts, wisdom, tips and tricks. You just need to get out there. *Finding a solid support network is so important (especially when you are a new mother), and it isn’t as hard as you might think.
Here are just a few things you can try to help you find Moms in your area who can help guide you on one of the most important journeys of your life.

1. Get Out There!
This one may seem simple and obvious but when it comes to actually doing it with a new baby it can be hard, but it is so important. Part of that feeling of isolation is because when we are new moms we don’t leave the house for days on end. It can be hard to actually do all that you need to do for your baby and still squeeze in a shower and throw some clean clothes on. It is so important though to actually leave your house. You might be surprised about how different life looks outside your front door and you might be surprised who you might meet too. The easiest thing to do is head for a walk to the park. It is the best place to meet other mothers. Talk to them. I still connect with a couple of women I met at a nearby outdoor space near my house when both of us had young kids. The kids are still friends too!

2. Join Mommy and Me Groups
There are so many groups out there, just look and you will find one that is the right fit for you and your baby. There is so much power in sharing your experience with others who understand what you are going through. They understand you, they can empathize with you, they can offer help and wisdom, they are just there for you in a way that many others can’t be. I found Ontario Early Years Centers so helpful.

3. Join a Fitness Group (something just for you!)
This one can be hard for a lot of women. How do you find time, away from your baby, to do something for yourself? I think it is important for your physical and emotional well being. You need to find time for you. Maybe this is something you do with other Moms or you partner up with another Mom you know so that you can help each other with child care. You get to go to a workout class while the other Mom watches your child, and then the next time you swap. It is a great way to support each other, share your experiences and get fit too.

4. Find All the Community Drop Ins
Many community centers have drop in programs. They are a great resource for you. These programs offer a great opportunity to get out with your baby, find other parents in your community and discover resources in your neighbourhood. Many are free or offered at a small fee.

5. Create Your Own Group
Get creative and resourceful and create your own group of moms. This is great if you have a few friends who have just had a baby or if you have seen a few other moms at the park with new babies. Find somewhere that is easy for everyone to get to and meet once a month for starters. You could maybe use a community meeting room at your local community centre or library. Be as casual or formal as you want. You could pick topics for each get together or even have guest speakers, like public health nurses or lactation consultant.

6. Get Online
There are so many resources online, the best ones often have forums (or chatrooms like Mums ‘n Chums). Forums and chatrooms offer you the chance to connect with people like you without leaving the comfort of your couch. You can ask questions, meet other moms and feel connected with people who are also in the same baby boat as you.

Monday, April 23, 2012

Being Present ... Is Such A Gift

"The most important time in your life is right now"
Deepak Chopra

"Now is the moment that never ends"
Deepak Chopra


I am growing to realize how important today is. Since becoming a Mom I have spent a lot of time looking back and looking ahead. I am a bit of a worrier and when I let it get hold I spend too much time in the past and in the future. Through my journey I am learning to live in the present. It is truly a gift.

I think what really got me thinking about how important it is to live in the present is my children. Over the past year I have come to see the impact of not living in the present. All of a sudden my kids are older. Well, not really all of a sudden but that is how it feels. By spending so much time looking back and forward I wasn't seeing the greatness and blessings of the present moment. There is so much beauty in the joy of every day moments. Kids grow up so quickly and I was letting the days slip away. We would be at the park and while the kids were having a great time I was think about something else -- like the dishes that needed to be done, the laundry that was waiting for me at home, the bills that need to be paid, the work that needed to be done. So many great moments have passed me by because I wasn't looking.

Today I work hard every single day to live in the present. Sometimes it can be hard. I need reminders but living in the present is truly a gift! It is living in the magic of life

Thursday, April 19, 2012

Another Amotherworld.com post!

Five Things You Should Do Every Day That Are Free

www.amotherworld.com
by Christy Laverty
The best things in life are free.

There I said it.

When you think about it you know it is true. I am talking about simple, everyday things that we often take for granted but when we embrace them they enrich us and make us happier. And being in a state of happiness will do wonders for you.

The happier you feel the better you feel. Just think about some of the best days of your life; your wedding, birth of your child, celebrating your birthday. Remember how happy you felt. Just thinking back to those days probably makes you feel happy.

There are simple things we can do every day that will enrich our daily lives; simple things. I am all about simple. I have enough craziness in my life on most days, just like a lot of Moms! We have enough on our plates, we don’t need complicated or difficult. Easy and simple are perfect for me.  And if you add free to the pot and stir in a little happiness that is one tasty soup in my mind.

So here we go. Just five simple things you can do every day to bring a little more happiness into your life!

1. Soak up the Sun
I am not talking about sun tanning. What I am saying is when the sun is shining take advantage, soak it up. Get outside.  There is nothing better for the body than some Vitamin D. It is a sure fire cure for the winter blues and blahs. It just makes you feel good to have the warmth of the sun shine down on your face. It puts a smile on my face that’s for sure.

2. Look at the Stars
I work evenings and so I don’t get home from work until about 1 a.m. Every time I pull up in my driveway and get out of my car I look up to the night sky. I love to take a few seconds to wonder at the stars. It is just so beautiful. If you are lucky enough to live somewhere you can actually see the stars in the sky at night, you should do it. It is awe inspiring.
When I get a chance to get up to our family cottage it is jaw dropping. There are so many stars I can hardly see them all. I am speechless whenever we sit by the fire or sit on the dock and stare up at the night sky. It is truly something everyone should see just once in their lives. It makes me happy. It costs nothing to take a few minutes to look up to the stars but it’s value is priceless for the soul.



3.         Take a Walk
Firstly, the exercise will do you good. It also gives you a great opportunity to see what is around your neighbourhood, around your house or work. You might even get the chance to discover some hidden gems. It also offers you a chance to be by yourself and think.  I think we all need time to be with ourselves, it does the body and mind and spirit good.

4.     Reach Out and Touch Someone
We are social creatures. There is nothing more important than the connections we have in our lives; they support us, they inspire us, they nourish us, they love us.  So do something that will bring you happiness and will give happiness to someone else and take a few moments to call, write or email a friend or loved one.  It is often something we forget to do as our lives get busy.
I have a childhood friend that I don’t talk to very often. She isn’t on Facebook or Twitter and doesn’t really use email so the phone is the best way to get in touch.  I have let that connection slide a bit. I miss her. So this week I am going to call her. You should do the same, call a friend, reconnect. It is important. It will nourish your soul and spirit. Let’s face it talking to friend can make you so happy!

5. Stop and Smell the Roses
Yes, if there are roses, or any other flower, you should stop and smell them. Flowers are meant to be enjoyed not just by the eyes but also by the nose BUT that isn’t all I am saying. This is a reminder to enjoy the beauty in your life every day. Slow down. Take a few minutes for yourself every day. You deserve it and it will nourish your mind and your spirit.
What simple things make you happy?


Christy Laverty is a mother and an editor for a Toronto all news radio station. She also does freelance writing for several parenting magazines. Visit Christy’s blog where she updates the trials, tribulations, and fun of being mom of two beautiful girls.